by harleydog » Fri Jan 14, 2011 4:09 am My wife and I have had a pretty rocky marriage. We have three wonderful kids and get along at times. My wife is never wrong about anything and belittles me constantantlhy and is always trying to control everything I do. I want to just control myself and it has nothing to do with trying to control her. After some counseling sessions and some research, I thing my wife may be a narcissist or borderline personality disorder. She will not speak to me for days for something trivial such as leaving a dish in the sink or not saying something the right way. she can do whatever she wants to me but you do the same to her you had better watch out. She twists everything around and makes me believe that everything is all my fault. I eventually have enough of this behavior and usually have angry outbursts, yell at her, call her names and yes I have gotten physical with her. I often times leave the situation and go outside and do what I can to cool down, eventually coming back to her in the same state of mind. I have extreme guilt after doing these things to her and often times the things she did to me to get me mad are cancelled out because I apologize and apologize more to try to make her forgive me. Seems I am constantly apologizing and she has honestly never said she is sorry one time in twelve years of us being together.
How do you handle situations when you are the only person that is ever wrong and the other person just keeps pushing. I am definitely not condoning my behavior by saying it is ok. I have been to anger management for about fifteen sessions and the therapist told me I that I know what to do, but when I thrust myself into this situation and she keeps doing these things I eventually get tired of her attacks. I simply want to get along and not be controlled and manipulated. I hate what I do and say and want to change. No matter what she does I should never do the things I have done and said.harleydogConsumer 5
Showing posts with label Anger. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Anger. Show all posts
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Anger issues
by katana » Sun Feb 20, 2011 6:55 pm Recently i realised anger is central to a lot of my problems.
Mood disorder - Most importantly, im not only driving the highs off anger, the same has been happening with the lows
Mood disorder - Most importantly, im not only driving the highs off anger, the same has been happening with the lows
Anger Amnesia
by Son » Sat Mar 12, 2011 3:56 am This is similar to a couple of other threads on here but a little different. I have amnesia about getting angry. My ehole life I never felt very angry but lately I've been having rages triggered by a lot of things. It happens when I think people are being unfair, are lying, or trying to trick me. I want to bash their heads in. I've lost control a few times and damaged property. Afterwards I forget that it happened. My husband is there for a lit if and reminds me of the rages which ive collectively forgotten. I may remember that SOMETHING bad happened but have no details. I'm told I'm not myself and irrational. Also, I'll forget small anger too. If I'm a little angry with someone and then walk away, I'll calm down and come back having totally forgotten I was angry with them
Does anyone else ever have this happen to them?SonConsumer 3
Does anyone else ever have this happen to them?SonConsumer 3
Anger ambivalence
by anonymoussun » Fri Mar 18, 2011 4:44 am Has anyone here ever felt the person that you truly love, you feel negative feelings towards him/her that include hate?
Since I have just recently discovered this term ambivalence and it means mixed feelings.anonymoussunConsumer 1
Since I have just recently discovered this term ambivalence and it means mixed feelings.anonymoussunConsumer 1
Anger problems as a block to developing assertiveness skills
by Nightowl9910 » Tue Mar 22, 2011 9:10 pm Decided to post this, as was wondering out of curiosity if anybody else here has ever had this kind of problem?
Developing assertiveness skills is an aim of mine right now. But unfortunately this is proving to be a big obstacle. For me it's one thing when trying to practice these skills on somebody who I already know is not likely to respond in an aggressive way. Even then I still find it difficult at times - but at least not impossible. However, if I try this out on somebody, only to have them react in really aggressive verbal ways towards me - or else am already feeling in a highly angry state towards them - I find putting this into practice pretty much impossible. As tend to end up becoming very aggressive myself to the point of verbally exploding or else coming very near to it, and feeling the only way to prevent the problem from getting out of control is to not interact with the person. Any good intentions I had end up going straight out of the window. I really want to overcome this problem because feel it's really getting in the way. But so far haven't found any self help information I've found useful. It's very frustrating.
Developing assertiveness skills is an aim of mine right now. But unfortunately this is proving to be a big obstacle. For me it's one thing when trying to practice these skills on somebody who I already know is not likely to respond in an aggressive way. Even then I still find it difficult at times - but at least not impossible. However, if I try this out on somebody, only to have them react in really aggressive verbal ways towards me - or else am already feeling in a highly angry state towards them - I find putting this into practice pretty much impossible. As tend to end up becoming very aggressive myself to the point of verbally exploding or else coming very near to it, and feeling the only way to prevent the problem from getting out of control is to not interact with the person. Any good intentions I had end up going straight out of the window. I really want to overcome this problem because feel it's really getting in the way. But so far haven't found any self help information I've found useful. It's very frustrating.
Can Overwhelm Shock and Anger lead to murder?
by Anhina » Sun Apr 10, 2011 4:49 am I really need your opinions for a research.
This is my scenario:
If someone scare you with something that you are most terrify of in this entire world just for a few laugh (prank), even though clearly the person is aware that you have told them not to ever do so, but they did anyway just to entertain themselves. Would you flip out and kill that person?
Also I would like to know
Is it possible for someone to have themselves under control all the time?
Would some prank turn into a murder scene (accidentally)?
Please help me get as many answer as possible.
Thank you so much for reading this and help me out.AnhinaConsumer 0
This is my scenario:
If someone scare you with something that you are most terrify of in this entire world just for a few laugh (prank), even though clearly the person is aware that you have told them not to ever do so, but they did anyway just to entertain themselves. Would you flip out and kill that person?
Also I would like to know
Is it possible for someone to have themselves under control all the time?
Would some prank turn into a murder scene (accidentally)?
Please help me get as many answer as possible.
Thank you so much for reading this and help me out.AnhinaConsumer 0
What about GYMS like cure against Anger ?
by miromirante » Fri Apr 22, 2011 8:34 pm OK, my friends,
What you think to use gyms like way to avoid anger or to leave all your negative energy ?I'm A MAN with HIGH PERFORMANCE
What you think to use gyms like way to avoid anger or to leave all your negative energy ?I'm A MAN with HIGH PERFORMANCE
Mad Anger
by Aklira » Sat May 21, 2011 9:23 pm Both sides of my parents families have anger problems, my father being one of the worst. I have inherited that trait. There are times where I would just barely contain myself from beating up my own mother. Hitting back after my father has hit me. There has been countless times as a young girl where people had pushed me, or taunted me, and before I knew it, I was punching their lights out, tears in my eyes, not from the pain of being bullied, or even the throbbing of my fist, but because I was so angry. There was a few weeks ago, when my little sister went into the bathroom, while I was in there, brushing my teeth. She called me something, I don't even remember, and I slapped her, and put my hand on her throat and squeezed. After a few seconds, I realized what I had been doing, and let go of her.
She was sobbing, but the door was closed so no one could really hear her, they were all downstairs. "You tried to kill me!" she screeched, her eyes wide in horror, as tears spilled over her cheeks. And I calmed her down and swore her to secrecy, because I knew that I would get the same treatment from my father, if not worse, had he known. I was shocked with myself. I put a hand on my little sisters throat, intending to suffocate her. I had been able to control it for a while, but I'm still afraid of what I might do if someone angers me. I don't know what to do to change this, and I was wondering if someone had any advice.
She was sobbing, but the door was closed so no one could really hear her, they were all downstairs. "You tried to kill me!" she screeched, her eyes wide in horror, as tears spilled over her cheeks. And I calmed her down and swore her to secrecy, because I knew that I would get the same treatment from my father, if not worse, had he known. I was shocked with myself. I put a hand on my little sisters throat, intending to suffocate her. I had been able to control it for a while, but I'm still afraid of what I might do if someone angers me. I don't know what to do to change this, and I was wondering if someone had any advice.
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